DEAR ABBY: In highschool, I had a buddy who always instructed me he cherished me. I by no means returned the emotions. We remained mates by highschool, school, and early maturity. We married others and had youngsters, sometimes popping into one another's lives.
4 years in the past, we began texting quite a bit — most likely 100 instances a day. Two years in the past, we met up (we dwell in several states now and met midway) and began a sexual relationship. For 18 months, we met as soon as a month. The intercourse is superior. Conversations are superb. Then we stopped. For the subsequent six months, we each labored on our marriages. Neither of us is comfortable.
Two months in the past, we began assembly once more. I feel I'm falling in love with him. I feel he loves me, however I additionally don't assume he'll go away his household. We've got recognized one another for 40 years. We all know the intercourse is so good, however we're additionally such good mates. What ought to I do? — RECONNECTED IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR RECONNECTED: You and this man are mature adults. Ask him the place he sees your love affair going. Does he plan to proceed the established order, or does he plan to depart his household? If he's nearly as good a buddy as you're feeling he's, he will provide you with an trustworthy reply, and you'll know what to do.
DEAR ABBY: I'm 22, and my boyfriend is 21. We've been relationship for a number of months. At a current household dinner, his maternal grandfather hit on me. I used to be serving to to clear the dinner desk and leaned throughout the desk to seize some soiled plates when Grandpa shoved his hand up my skirt. Then he leered at me, and my survival instincts kicked in. I slapped him throughout the face so onerous he fell off his chair. It created a scene, and my boyfriend's mom screamed at me.
My boyfriend's sisters tried to downplay what he did, dismissing Grandpa's habits as “he's only a scamp!” I left the home in a rush, and the household is now speaking about suing me for assault. I'm dumbfounded, and now I'm second-guessing myself.
I've instructed my boyfriend we're over, and he's upset as a result of we had a pleasant relationship. I'm not certain I can go ahead with it. Am I within the incorrect right here? Ought to I apologize? — SHAKEN IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR SHAKEN: You don't have any purpose to apologize. Your boyfriend's household ought to apologize to you. Your boyfriend's grandfather is just not a “scamp.” He's an outdated man who seems to be dropping management of his colleges.
You weren't incorrect to defend your self. If there's any extra discuss of “suing you for assault” after what Gramps did, inform them you'll file a police report about his inappropriate habits, which was removed from innocent. His subsequent sufferer may very well be a minor.
DEAR ABBY: When it's scorching, I prefer to take my shirt off in retailer parking tons and toss it into the cart whereas I unload. It provides me some reduction from the scorching summer time temperatures. This appears comparatively innocent to me, however what do you assume? — BARE-CHESTED GUY
DEAR GUY: The reply relies upon upon how “scorching” you're. When you're a buff, furry-chested male, it's high-quality with me so long as you're carrying sunscreen.
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Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
