DEAR ABBY: I've been a registered nurse for 11 years. I'm skilled in hospital flooring nursing and clinic nursing, and I've all the time been properly regarded in my discipline. I've by no means had an issue forming optimistic relationships with my co-workers.
I just lately moved to a brand new unit. Though the workflow is barely completely different than what I used to be used to, I've caught on shortly and really feel assured in my capability to do the job properly. My drawback is, not one of the nurses appears to love or respect me. They take each alternative to level out insignificant variations in the way in which I do issues versus how they do them. What it actually comes right down to is their choice vs. precise protocol. I attempt each day to have interaction in dialog, get to know them higher and kind a supportive and respectful working relationship with every of them. My efforts are met with little or no reciprocation.
I like the kind of work I'm doing. The hours are nice, and I've the time to supply nice nursing care and function an advocate for my sufferers. Nevertheless, I've all the time mentioned I might have the worst job on the planet but when I had nice relationships with my co-workers, it could make the job way more gratifying. I now really feel I've one of the best job with the worst co-workers. I've gone dwelling and cried a number of occasions from feeling pissed off that I'm not accepted. Ought to I stop and transfer on? If not, how can I make this higher?
–– DISAPPOINTED IN ARKANSAS
DEAR DISAPPOINTED: Change could be troublesome for everybody concerned, together with your co-workers. Since you are new, give it a little bit extra time earlier than deciding whether or not to maneuver on. If issues don't enhance, talk about your emotions of isolation along with your supervisor to make sure that the frosty reception you may have obtained doesn't negatively have an effect on your efficiency. Then search for one other job.
DEAR ABBY: I'm considered one of three grownup siblings. My brother and sister each have kids; I don't. I like my nieces and nephews and have all the time offered birthday and Christmas items, in addition to despatched them cash for graduations or different particular occasions.
My siblings say they now not wish to alternate items between the three of us, and simply to deal with the youngsters. I spend a number of hundred {dollars} a 12 months on items for them and obtain no items in return. I do know that when a present is given, there needs to be no expectation of getting one in return, however I feel a token present for my birthday and Christmas wouldn't be unreasonable. I might be thrilled to obtain a $20 present card to a restaurant. Am I being unreasonable? — LOVING UNCLE IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR UNCLE: Maybe. From what you may have written, I don't suppose you'd get something with out “prompting.” As a substitute of dwelling on what you don't obtain, attempt to focus on the eye and affection they do offer you, and you might really feel much less disadvantaged.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
