Jana Kramer is able to proceed her therapeutic journey after an abusive previous.
Throughout the Wednesday, October 29, episode of iHeartRadio's “Whine Down” podcast, Kramer, 41, invited the daughter of her alleged abuser to have an open and sincere dialog about their experiences.
“I do know it's my story, however that is additionally your story, and I do need to apologize,” Kramer shared with a lady recognized as Brittany Qualls. “It's obtained to be exhausting having somebody that you simply don't know talk about somebody that's your father, and so I apologize if that's ever been one thing that's been difficult so that you can stroll by.”
The One Tree Hill alum continued, “I don't know what that feels prefer to have somebody discuss somebody that … you've by no means met me, , and like somebody that you simply've additionally by no means met too.”
Though Kramer didn't reveal the identify of her abuser within the episode, she has beforehand spoken out concerning the alleged home abuse she endured throughout her first marriage to Michael Gambino.
“One minute he could be variety and everybody beloved him,” Kramer recalled on her podcast. “My mother and father beloved him, which made me suppose that I used to be the loopy one. … He would have this, like, swap that will simply go from good to evil inside moments.”
Kramer married Gambino throughout a Las Vegas wedding ceremony in 2004 when she was 19.
Gambino was convicted one yr later of premeditated tried homicide and served 5 years in jail. Though he was launched on parole, he died by suicide in 2012.
In her dialog with Kramer, Qualls made it clear that an apology from the “Why You Wanna” singer “just isn't wanted in anyway.”
“On the finish of the day, this individual was my father,” she mentioned. “Regardless that I didn't know him, and I've identified all of the dangerous issues, I feel you hope there's some good in there, however there's not. I assume I've all the time been hopeful that somebody would say one thing good. I've discovered to be comfortable with that.”
Qualls mentioned she first discovered of her father's conduct when selecting up a difficulty of People journal and seeing his mugshot.
“It's positively not one thing you thought in the future it might be, like, in public or something,” Qualls mentioned. “I feel once I heard it for the primary time, I used to be like, ‘No, that's not my dad,' after which listening to extra from different individuals, it sort of weighs heavy on you slightly bit since you undergo the whys.”
With assist from remedy, Qualls mentioned she has been in a position to course of lots of tough info and reside a full life.
“I consider that I'm not him, and his actions aren't me,” she declared. “On the finish of the day, I'm who I make myself be, and no matter he did just isn't who I'm.”
As for Kramer — who's at the moment married to Allan Russell — she's grateful to have had the chance to attach with Qualls.
“I simply need to say, you're the most stunning piece of him,” she mentioned. “You're stunning. … I simply actually recognize you approaching, reaching out and being persistent sufficient to place the items collectively for you. I feel that claims quite a bit about you and who you're.”
When you or somebody is experiencing home violence, please name the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for confidential help.
