DEAR ABBY: I lately acquired a voicemail from my brother that recorded a dialog he was having along with his spouse. It was clear he didn't know he had by chance dialed my telephone throughout this dialog.
It was an argument, which lasted two minutes earlier than there was a pause within the dialog and he hung up.
I haven't addressed it with him but as a result of I'm shocked at my sister-in-law's conduct throughout this dialog, and the best way she treats my brother.
I've identified for some time that she blames others for conditions she ought to share the blame in, however I had by no means heard her in a personal dialog till this voicemail.
My brother should know these two minutes dwell on my telephone, though we haven't spoken about it. I need to speak with him and inform him that I heard what she mentioned.
I'd like him to know I hope she treats him with respect, and that she sounds ungrateful for all of the onerous work he places in at his job of their one-income family with two kids. How ought to I deal with this? — OVERHEARD IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR OVERHEARD: Speak to your brother and specific that the combat between him and his spouse was partially recorded in your telephone.
Then inform him you don't imply to pry, however assume he and his spouse may gain advantage from marital counseling if they're each keen. (I hope he'll hear and have some periods, even when his spouse refuses.)
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are retired. He sits in his recliner chair all day, on daily basis. He says he's “learning his Bible” or watching YouTube movies.
He additionally sleeps 12 to 14 hours after he goes to mattress round 8 p.m. most nights.
This has been occurring for no less than a 12 months, and I'm SICK of it. I need a companion to do issues with.
Nothing I've achieved or mentioned motivates him to stand up and transfer. Since I'm not keen to just accept this life-style for myself, I take courses on the Y three to 5 instances every week, go to lunch with buddies, learn and attend our neighborhood ebook membership, paint and do crafts, and speak with or e-mail buddies.
Most nights, I watch TV upstairs on my own. I'll as nicely be single! Any recommendations? — UNCOUPLED IN SOUTH CAROLINA
DEAR UNCOUPLED: Get that husband of yours to his physician for a radical bodily and neurological examination. Individuals of all ages want some type of train. When individuals who weren't sedentary spend all day, on daily basis sitting, it's harmful to their well being.
Your husband may undergo from any variety of illnesses, together with despair. Ensuring he has been checked out might be life altering not just for him but additionally for you.
DEAR ABBY: When the hostess provides you leftovers after a pleasant meal, how a lot must you take? — WONDERING IN THE SOUTH
DEAR WONDERING: Don't be grasping. Go away sufficient meals for different company to take some house if they need, and don't overlook to do the identical on your hostess.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
